I see so many people exploring a width of experience in sexuality, instead of a depth of connection. I get it. We are in a cultural adolescence. Challenging everything to authentically be ourselves. But sometimes, it makes me think about how our attention span is waning. Evidently, we now have less focus, then a goldfish.

I agree, it’s necessary to know what you want. Whether it is monogamy, polyamory, or some other configuration. It’s important to find the container that holds you. To spread out into a structure, that allows your deepest surrender to self.

But remember the point of all this language and exploration.

It’s not about whether you are in a 50 year marriage or love wearing roller skates at a furry convention with your two boyfriends. Your identity is more then the labels you use, the gender you identify with or not, and your sexual proclivities. It’s how present you are. How you love. How it feels to be in a room with you.

Please don’t get lost in the idea that freedom means no boundaries. Or that more of something equals greater satisfaction. Demand more then distraction. Remember your worth.

Pursue the real questions.